It has come to my attention the importance of staying connected during this time. A recent report on Psychologytoday.com and Foxnew.com explained that a 14-year-old girl committed suicide in her own home while her mother was there.
Her mother next expected it as she thought her daughter was healthy. In retrospect, her mother said that her daughter was involved in all sorts of activities at school; Cheer, sports, and social events. While her daughter was physically healthy, she was not socially healthy. Here is a link to the report.
Many teens may be experiencing abandonment in some ways. I see it as they have been uprooted and forced to change and accept what is happening to them rather rapidly. If your kids are rebellious, they may not be willing to accept the change as quickly.
These changes will be challenging for the family. Understanding that it will not be like this forever (to a teen, it seems so) and that life will return to normal at some point. This is a difficult concept to understand, even for adults sometimes.
Take this time to connect with your teens, ask difficult questions to ensure that they are doing Okay. Also, if your teen is not engaging in online socialization with friends or family, encourage them to do so during this time.
During quarantine, you and your kids must remain connected with the outside world. Yes, we are spending hours upon hours with some of our kids but, the ones that isolate to their rooms or other locations may need to be checked on more regularly.
You can also encourage and participate in online chats with your friends and family during this time. I believe that those who have the capabilities should put forth a valiant attempt to engage with friends and family you use to see daily and those you haven’t seen in years. Who knows these actions may start new traditions and habits.
You could zoom with a family member during dinner, or actually, watch the same TV show then talk about it during commercials. Another way to interact is to partake in the same event, such as crafting, painting, cooking, or completing a jigsaw puzzle. These may sound mundane activities, but it may help you and your kids stay connected during COVID19.
This can be done through a few apps on your phone, tablet, or laptop.
If you own an iPhone and who you want to call, or video chat with uses an iPhone, then you can Face time each other. This is one of the easiest ways to video chat one on one. FaceTime actually works on any Apple products.
Zoom offers a free service for 40 minutes at a time. You can set this up very quickly by going to zoom.com, creating an account for you and your family to share. If you would l like to have multiple accounts that is fine too, just remember, each account will need a separate email address.
Facebook video calling is a great way to stay connected, as well. You and your teenagers can keep in touch with their friends through your Facebook page. On your messenger panel, you have the option to make a voice or video call.
For Windows, user Teams may be a better option for you. This app should already be under your Microsoft 365 account and connected to your login. If not, head over to microsoft365.com to grab the app and set up your login.
I challenge you to connect with at least 5 local friends this weekend and 3 distant relatives over the next week.
Maintaining connections during this time is vital to your social health!